Technically, to properly name an extended chord, you only need the 3,7, and extented note.
example,
C13 b7,3,13 Bb, E, A
C9 3,b7,9 E, Bb, D
C7#9 3,b7, #9 E,Bb, D#
C7 3, b7 E, Bb
C11 3, b7, 11 E,Bb,F <--- you will probably never see this chord. Third is usually omitted
In addition, you will probably rarely play an extended chord such as a 13th chord and play every note. I dont think I have ever played a full 13th chord.
Tip: When trying to learn new voicing/chords for a song, play the root note with your pinky in your left hand and play the melody note with the pinky in your right hand. Then simply fill in the rest and use your ear as the judge FIRST. Then, try to name the chord.