Choir Dilemna

[MikaSue]

Ok LGM,  I need some advice....

We have 3 choirs    - Tots, Teenagers, and Grown Folks. (these are not the official names but i'm making a point here.)

So the Teenagers and Grown Folks were already around for years.  The MOM and another woman decided to break off some of the children and form a Tots choir.  Well I thought TOTS were babies  cut off would be like 5.  These tots are 8, 9, 11.  Which isn't teenager but very close.

For 2 years I have only played for the Teenagers.   So the MOM has left the church and they are looking at me to pick up the TOTS and the Grown Folks.  Well, I suggested that we eliminate the "TOTS" as they are not tots and just have the teenagers and grown folks.

#1  The MOM had no loyalty to something she started by leaving. 
#2  the other lady is soooo inconsistent.  She may be at church one Sunday and miss 3. 

So the choir director for the Teenagers suggest that we just all sing together and we can begin training their voices.  I"m for it because I don't want the kids just idle.

Well the other lady is having a fit saying that she don't see why we can't continue to have a TOTS choir.  She has 3 kids in the tots choir and dont' want them to sing with the teenagers  they are 8, 9, 11!  They are not tots.

My push back with her is she is not going to be there to train them.  No one else is working with them. It will all fall on me.  I ain't for it when they can just join the choir that I already play for.

What ya'll think?

[sjonathan02]

Just reading your side of the story, what you're saying makes sense. The bigger issue needs to be addressed (whatever it is). Voice your concerns, in love, pray to God for the guidance of your tongue AND the openess of your heart as you continue to dialogue with this person.


I'm praying for God to manifest His glory in this situation.

[Ransom]

  WOW this is a topic that u dont hear about but if ur overt he musician staff or the musician then you should take the right channels to get the right aadvice on what u shuold do but also u must not look at as ur fought for the mom to leave chruch becuase eviendly  her faith and when she said she will abide to be subject by the rukes and those who have rule over hear such as musician and pastors that may or may not nor more than her she still gave her word so my advice to you stay strong in the lord and pray about the sitation .  god bless ransom

[MikaSue]

Just reading your side of the story, what you're saying makes sense. The bigger issue needs to be addressed (whatever it is). Voice your concerns, in love, pray to God for the guidance of your tongue AND the openess of your heart as you continue to dialogue with this person.


I'm praying for God to manifest His glory in this situation.

sjonathan,  are you saying there is another side?
The MOM started the tots.
The MOM left.
Should the TOTS remain? 

my side  "no"  combine them  less work for me

[sjonathan02]

sjonathan,  are you saying there is another side?
The MOM started the tots.
The MOM left.
Should the TOTS remain? 

my side  "no"  combine them  less work for me

My sister in Christ, there is ALWAYS another side. I do believe I said that your solution makes sense, but there IS a deeper issue at hand (again, I don't attend your church so I don't profess to know what that issue may be) that needs to be addressed fully.

You stated that there was someone who had a problem with your solution, correct? You need to ascertain what her objections are, state your position and arrive at a middle ground so that everyone can be about God's business.


Again, I think you have a wonderful solution (that makes absolute sense to me). Have you spoken with your Pastor concerning this matter?

[MikaSue]

Meeting with Pastor on Sunday.

Pray for me. :-)

[sjonathan02]

Meeting with Pastor on Sunday.

Pray for me. :-)

Standing in agreement with you.

[TheClef]

lol...I've always been told that in every disagreement there's my side, the other side, and the truth. I've always stuck by that maxim

[1voice]

very well put sjonathan,and the clef...