Musician Question?

[jgause2]

A father and a son are musicians at the church.  The church announces on sunday that there will be an evening program at another church on tuesday.  The father decides that he's not going to go because his daugher is having a band concert, and urges the son to come along also.  the father also is unhappy that he found out at the last minute, but thats another story.  The son really wants to go to the concert, but feels that he has an obligation to the church.  What should the son do? (Concerning age, the son is in his low 20's.)

[Matt2008]

Personally I do not like last min things.  But since it's his daughter I might be willing to go the other church. He may be your dad but he has an obligation to your sister.

[kodacolor]

On one hand if the son wants to go to the concert he should go.  The church should know better than to spring this stuff on the music ministry at the last minute.  If they end up without musicians then oh well.

On the other hand it does show a high level of faithfulness to the ministry.  Sometimes you have to give up stuff you want to do to be faithful to the ministry God call you to.

Personally I would go to the concert because I don't like stuff being sprung on me.  When I don't practice I sound like crap.  I believe if I'm doing this for God he shouldn't get last minute crap.   He should get the best I have to offer.

The son should pray on this.  Which ever God leads him to do is what he will be the happiest doing.

[under13]

I mostly agree with Koda, but I dont think going to the church for the last minute event, shows faithfulnes, but it shows that you will let them walk all over you. They knew well in advance that this event was taking place, but they did not have the courtesy to let you know of it in a timely manner. That shows that they have little respect for you guys.

Are things still going bad at that church?

[jgause2]

I mostly agree with Koda, but I dont think going to the church for the last minute event, shows faithfulnes, but it shows that you will let them walk all over you. They knew well in advance that this event was taking place, but they did not have the courtesy to let you know of it in a timely manner. That shows that they have little respect for you guys.

Are things still going bad at that church?

i say no, only because i personally am not confronted with any drama that concerns everybody else.  I just try to stay away for it as much as possible, and focus on the tasks at hand.  However, sometimes i will find myself in the middle of stuff that has nothing to do with me. 

[momuzik]

If the father tells the son to come to the concert than he needs to obey his father - "for this pleases the Lord".
Also if the concert was scheduled before they knew about the Tues night service, the son shouldn't feel any guilt about going to the concert and the church should understand.

[keyboard_kait]

Would going to the church program be worth making your dad mad and harming your relationship?
Just think about what's more important to you...which decision are you going to regret the most...
but if you think your dad will get over it quickly, then go to the concert!

[Ramar]

If I were the son, I'd definitely go to the concert... I would just be honest and tell them that I'm going to the concert... And then I would enjoy myself while I'm there!!

[westbrooks1961]

Being a dad, I feel that the father has a responsibilty to support his daughter/kids. How many concerts will he be able to attend before she/they grow up. If the son wants to go, let him go. Family is very important in this day and age.

If the church does not give a musician ample notice to play/perform, I feel that the choice is up to the musician weather they want to play or not. People do make plans in advance. The church should understand this.     

[organman88]

Being a dad, I feel that the father has a responsibilty to support his daughter/kids. How many concerts will he be able to attend before she/they grow up. If the son wants to go, let him go. Family is very important in this day and age.

If the church does not give a musician ample notice to play/perform, I feel that the choice is up to the musician weather they want to play or not. People do make plans in advance. The church should understand this.     

im not a dad but i understand where he is coming from