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Re: Being forced by mother to be on the Praise Team
« Reply #20 on: April 29, 2011, 08:43:15 AM »
See, I'll probably be called a radical heathen and all that, but if I were the MOM at your church, I'd try to work that in if he's good at it and can glorify the Lord with it.
He can always do some Canton Jones.

Yep. I totally agree. I don't know why the church has such a hard time letting people serve/minister as per their calling, not per our molds and traditions.

And yes, Dave, you are a radical heathen.
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Re: Being forced by mother to be on the Praise Team
« Reply #21 on: April 29, 2011, 08:48:26 AM »
This may sound lame but I'm learning a lot of stuff in this thread. My son is only 8 but before I know it, he will be a teenager. The last thing I want is to push him away from God. Around here, people force their teenagers into things all the time because of the "This is my house and you gone do whatever I tell ya" mentality.  :-\

BTW, Rue/Layla honey you have great wisdom. You need to think about writing a book on what parenting. Just an idea ;)
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Re: Being forced by mother to be on the Praise Team
« Reply #22 on: April 29, 2011, 09:15:30 AM »
I don't know about that Vonne, but I'll say this: if I do have any "wisdom" at all, it's because I made sooooo many mistakes with my daughter - most of which revolve around just being too hard on her. I wanted her to be perfect to hide my own imperfections and correct all of my failures (as she so insightfully told me when she was just 13). Don't get me wrong - I did some things "right." She's a really beautiful young lady who has overcome more than most people ever have to. But if I could do it again, I wouldn't be so hard on her, I would choose my battles, let the small things slide, I wouldn't have spoiled her the way I did, and I definitely wouldn't have forced her to stay in that choir. :) (Most importantly, I would've put her on an IUD :-[).
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Re: Being forced by mother to be on the Praise Team
« Reply #23 on: April 29, 2011, 10:05:12 AM »
Wow this is such a good posting....
I want to just speak on the part of making kids do things in church that they really dont want to do.
I can go either way with that.

When I was a child you didnt have a choice in the matter.... You were going sing, you were going read scripture, you were going pray and public speak... So I guess I put in my mind that this is how it is and should be...
Well there is a limit or extent to all things.....
If I know that my child cant hold a tune in a wet paper bag I will not force him or her to be on the choir. I would look to another Ministry.. You cant go wrong as an Usher.... Dance Team... There is so many other things in Church kids can do....

Well being that my church does not offer but the Choir and Ushering all my kids sing on the choir.... Now my kids love singing and they know that they are required to participate and pay attention. .....

I think that it is all dependent upon there training at home...
See allot of our kids attitudes and things stem from home life......
There are times when we allow our kids to get in their element but we still should bring up a child in the way they should be .... (its not what they want but what is best for them)


now note this is all my opinon

In the case with the young man you are speaking about....
He may just need some additional talking too and sometimes we need to ask kids questions like what would make church fun what would you like to sing?.......

He's a young man....he will be ok...
I have a 17 year old
14year old
12"boy
12  girl
8 year old boy
5 year old boy.......

yes 6 kids
5 boys and one girl.....

Some times kids just need a push
in the name of jesus..
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Re: Being forced by mother to be on the Praise Team
« Reply #24 on: April 29, 2011, 10:12:50 AM »
When I was a child you didnt have a choice in the matter.... You were going sing, you were going read scripture, you were going pray and public speak... So I guess I put in my mind that this is how it is and should be...
Well there is a limit or extent to all things.....
If I know that my child cant hold a tune in a wet paper bag I will not force him or her to be on the choir. I would look to another Ministry.. You cant go wrong as an Usher.... Dance Team... There is so many other things in Church kids can do....

If I may...

I disagree with this part.

When I was coming up, I don't think we had a choice about reading/reciting/memorizing scriptures, doing the welcome at youth services, praying, etc... We all enjoyed it, so I really couldn't tell you if we had a choice or not because we wanted to. I am most grateful for my upbringing because it helped shape me into a very articulate, outspoken woman with good diction and pretty much no fear of public speaking. I'm glad for all that stuff I had to do as a kid.

In turn, I made my daughter do stuff too. I don't know if she had a choice because when she was younger, she loved it all.

As she got older, that's when kids start to decide what they do and don't want to do, and as their talents and interests begin to develop, we as parents need to help shape them and not force our own stuff on them (that's my opinion).

I also disagree with you saying that you can't go wrong as an usher. You must not have ever seen an usher with a sour face, or a kid whose mama was making them usher. Either way, you can definitely go wrong with ushering, as with any ministry.

Kids, ESPECIALLY once they're old enough to know what they enjoy, should be placed in the ministry area where they can be effective.
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Re: Being forced by mother to be on the Praise Team
« Reply #25 on: April 29, 2011, 10:25:50 AM »
If I may...

I disagree with this part.

When I was coming up, I don't think we had a choice about reading/reciting/memorizing scriptures, doing the welcome at youth services, praying, etc... We all enjoyed it, so I really couldn't tell you if we had a choice or not because we wanted to. I am most grateful for my upbringing because it helped shape me into a very articulate, outspoken woman with good diction and pretty much no fear of public speaking. I'm glad for all that stuff I had to do as a kid.

Kids, ESPECIALLY once they're old enough to know what they enjoy, should be placed in the ministry area where they can be effective.
I understand you disaggreeing.... i appreciate my upbringing as well and i do believe that i can decide what is best for my children not based on my own likes or wants but my common sense to see what they are good at...
When i said ushering ....im my opinion it dont require much to usher just being cordial and seating people and smiling.....common daily people skills.
if we leave up to our kids they want do nothing...
now that is a hold different conversation.....
choices come later
instruction starts now....
from us parents .....






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Re: Being forced by mother to be on the Praise Team
« Reply #26 on: April 29, 2011, 10:52:38 AM »
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Re: Being forced by mother to be on the Praise Team
« Reply #27 on: April 29, 2011, 11:46:59 AM »
Wow this is such a good posting....
I want to just speak on the part of making kids do things in church that they really dont want to do.
I can go either way with that.

When I was a child you didnt have a choice in the matter.... You were going sing, you were going read scripture, you were going pray and public speak... So I guess I put in my mind that this is how it is and should be...
Well there is a limit or extent to all things.....
If I know that my child cant hold a tune in a wet paper bag I will not force him or her to be on the choir. I would look to another Ministry.. You cant go wrong as an Usher.... Dance Team... There is so many other things in Church kids can do....

Well being that my church does not offer but the Choir and Ushering all my kids sing on the choir.... Now my kids love singing and they know that they are required to participate and pay attention. .....

I think that it is all dependent upon there training at home...
See allot of our kids attitudes and things stem from home life......
There are times when we allow our kids to get in their element but we still should bring up a child in the way they should be .... (its not what they want but what is best for them)


now note this is all my opinon

In the case with the young man you are speaking about....
He may just need some additional talking too and sometimes we need to ask kids questions like what would make church fun what would you like to sing?.......

He's a young man....he will be ok...
I have a 17 year old
14year old
12"boy
12  girl
8 year old boy
5 year old boy.......

yes 6 kids
5 boys and one girl.....

Some times kids just need a push
in the name of jesus..
You've got SIX chillren!! :o :o :o :o :o I can barely handle my two....I admire you! God bless you Sis!
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Re: Being forced by mother to be on the Praise Team
« Reply #28 on: April 30, 2011, 05:08:06 PM »
I believe that there is a difference between making them go to church (if you live in my house you will go) and making them SERVE in church. I believe EVERY position in the ministry is MINISTRY, and someone with the wrong spirit can be used by the enemy to distract, annoy, and hinder the Holy Spirit from moving as he should. We need to be sensitive to the Holy Spirit with our children. I make mine go to church, but when it comes to ministry they must have the right spirit. We came up against rebellion in my next to the oldest son, and he had to sit down from the sound board ministry for a while. He did not need to be up there with an attitude working the sound or powerpoint. We let him choose what he wanted to do, and he did it well until he had to sit down.

He learned a lesson, and after he began to display the proper fruit again he was allowed back on the sound board. You must be sensitive to what God directs. Children need to understand the seriousness of a worship service, and their need to flow with the Holy Spirit and not be a distraction. They can't do that when they don't want to be there.

God does not force us to serve, but He urgently presses upon us to follow after Him with all of our might. I believe if you teach your son to seek the Lord with all of his heart, then he will be compelled to serve where he is supposed to serve. Then it won't be a struggle, and he will enjoy what he is doing. Concentrate on his spiritual condition FIRST, the rest will follow: TRUST ME! Better still- TRUST GOD to work on his heart! 

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Re: Being forced by mother to be on the Praise Team
« Reply #29 on: April 30, 2011, 05:54:06 PM »
I LOVE that, Ladyn, and I so totally agree.
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Re: Being forced by mother to be on the Praise Team
« Reply #30 on: May 02, 2011, 12:12:08 PM »
Anybody else think Ladycft is actually SketchMan's mom? Hmmm...

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hahahahahaaaa Very funny but NO! I did this post from my phone and I actually thought it was you who had posted it or some lady that why I said "She" and "you are the sister"...If you did not catch on too it! So Sorry sketchman3. No hard feels. I am a little new here...






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