First, one would have to buy the assertion that 'everyone is racist to an extent'. I do not. People have a preference for or a proclivity towards a thing or people based on cultural experiences (e.g. one's desire to only date Black because they are Black) but to say that everyone is a racist is SUCH a stretch, imho.
I also don't think everyone is racist.
However, I've been told that some of my opinions are racist (by my sister), and that's something I give thought to every time the subject arises. My two best girlfriends are both white, and I love them like blood sisters. I don't have any negative opinions of them at all. In fact, most of the stereotypical opinions I have about white people in general (and some of the opinions I have about black people), are opinions that they both share. But some people will still say that it's racist to think or say that. *shrug*
I don't think I'm racist, but if I am, I do know that I wouldn't discriminate. I guess that's why I asked that question. I can't see myself denying anyone any opportunity based on the color of their skin; nor would I treat anyone any differently because of the color of their skin. I wouldn't even think differently of a person (without getting to know them first) based solely on their race.
This was good to know:
From your friendly EO rep, Racism is an attitude of superiority, often coupled with an act to subordinate an individual or individuals based on color. The act of subordination can be Discrimination. You have to have power in an area to discriminate (say restuarant owner denying blacks, power to choose white boyfriend over Indian, etc). You can be racist, but not exercise discrimination. I'd write more, but I gotta go play for the general .
And makes me wonder now... is it wrong to be racist if you don't exercise discrimination?