Domestic Violence... Do you help or not?

[Fenix]

He was really hurt. He always gives 100% in a relationship. He was a flowers, candles, massage your feet kinda guy.

That <insert colloquial word used for a female dog> didn't deserve him.

Sorry LGM.

[Gibby]

If it's a man I know, I will intervene. I saw a really close friend of mine about to hit his girl cause he busted her cheating with his boy. Like she was BUSTED. CAUGHT, in the act. I was able to calm him down, though.

It wasn't easy! He was like a full pot of boiling water! I had to talk fast. I told him she wasn't worth going to jail over. I started naming people who would be really hurt if he went to jail. His mother(he's her oldest son) his little brother, his little sister, his pastor. I said some other things too. He ended up just walking away, punching walls and kicking cars.  He was really hurt. He always gives 100% in a relationship. He was a flowers, candles, massage your feet kinda guy.

See stuff like that gets on my nerves.  Try to be a NICE GUY and this is what you get. I woulda let him get a few shots in...BTJM

[MissMusic04]

That <insert colloquial word used for a female dog> didn't deserve him.

Sorry LGM.

She definitely did not. She tried calling him a few times. Apologizing, crying and all that.

See stuff like that gets on my nerves.  Try to be a NICE GUY and this is what you get. I woulda let him get a few shots in...BTJM

  , Shoot, I wanted to get a couple of jabs.

[sistagurl]

I'd think like this..if it were my sister, my mother, or any loved one would I want someone to step in and help? Especially if that was all the help they may have????

I'd hope I could help in some way if I was needed. Now I agree when guns or weapons are involved, I'll call the poe poe. "Momma didn't raise no fool"! But I maaaay risk a beat down to help someone. Because I couldn't sat there and listen or watch someone getting beat down.

There was a situation once when I was about 7. I vagely remember it...but my sister and her husband were living with us. They got into an argument and she started screaming bloody murder...calling my dad (was her step). He broke in the door cause her husband had locked it. I don't know what went on in the room. There was a lot of bumping and tussling but my dad came out with a gun. I've never forgotten that. They had to leave after that, because my dad wouldn't let him stay and she wouldn't leave him. But he intervened even with a gun involved. I guess if it's your family some may risk that but for a stranger??.......

[LaylaMonroe]

I'd think like this..if it were my sister, my mother, or any loved one would I want someone to step in and help? Especially if that was all the help they may have????

I'd hope I could help in some way if I was needed. Now I agree when guns or weapons are involved, I'll call the poe poe. "Momma didn't raise no fool"! But I maaaay risk a beat down to help someone. Because I couldn't sat there and listen or watch someone getting beat down.

There was a situation once when I was about 7. I vagely remember it...but my sister and her husband were living with us. They got into an argument and she started screaming bloody murder...calling my dad (was her step). He broke in the door cause her husband had locked it. I don't know what went on in the room. There was a lot of bumping and tussling but my dad came out with a gun. I've never forgotten that. They had to leave after that, because my dad wouldn't let him stay and she wouldn't leave him. But he intervened even with a gun involved. I guess if it's your family some may risk that but for a stranger??.......

I will ask the question everyone will want to know: are they still together?

[Fenix]

Yeah Sis'gurl, are they still together?

[B_XALTED]

I didnt know that her husband had a gun or that a gun was involved until after the police were there taking statements. She then pointed them in the direction to where she threw it, and then she gave them the magazine for it.

I most definitely wouldnt have intervened if he was shooting, or if I knew that he had a gun. I look at it like this... Everywhere that she was standing in her house in that situation, of he would have shot at her, those bullets would have come through my living room, and bedroom.

I praise God that I was there for her, and that it did nto go as far as that, cause I have a bad knee and bad back... LOL. I cant run but so fast, and but so far... I talked to another neighbor yesterday, and she said that she didnt hear a thing. I was so shocked, seeing as how the ambulance, fire truck and police were parked in front of her deck... Crazy.

Well, she is morving out, and I no longer have to find a new place to live, for the moment. I still get scared at home, becuase now I live by myself, and I am almost paranoid. I am trying to shake this feeling. I think that this situation just showed me that we dont have control over ANYTHING on this earth, The outcome will always be God's decision... It was a wake up call. And having said that, I am not as afraid... cause I cant control a thing.

[sistagurl]

Nope, they broke up not long after that. He moved up north and got with someone else.

[Cheetara23]

When I was little, my mother was attacked and almost raped by this man she barely knew. It was early evening and they were outside. The man came after her with a broken bottle and everything. My mom was screaming and begging for help...they were right near an apartment complex. A man heard my mom screaming and the man attacking her and he called out "Is everything ok out there?" The man said everything was fine, even though my mom was crying and begging for this man to call the police and help her. She said the man just said he don't want no trouble and went back in. If my mom hadn't fought so hard for her life she would've never gotten away from that man. She ran home and came in, blood all on her. So this is sort of a sensitive subject. If you don't want to physically involve yourself, at Least call the police.

[B3Wannabe]

When I was little, my mother was attacked and almost raped by this man she barely knew. It was early evening and they were outside. The man came after her with a broken bottle and everything. My mom was screaming and begging for help...they were right near an apartment complex. A man heard my mom screaming and the man attacking her and he called out "Is everything ok out there?" The man said everything was fine, even though my mom was crying and begging for this man to call the police and help her. She said the man just said he don't want no trouble and went back in. If my mom hadn't fought so hard for her life she would've never gotten away from that man. She ran home and came in, blood all on her. So this is sort of a sensitive subject. If you don't want to physically involve yourself, at Least call the police.

I had the same thing happen to me. He was in his late 20s. I was 12. He had a gun somewhere, but not on him. I had a bat and a dog.

[nessalynn77]

Wow.  Those last two posts put a whole different spin on it.

[JustBritt]

Right. I was thinking the same thing Ness.

[SavnBass]

If someone asks me for my help and I am ina position to render it I will do so. My life and every situation is in the hands of someone bigger than me or them..  It is tougher when you see or hear it from the outside.. but if I say for instance heard it I wold call the police... if I saw it I wold call the police... but if it was a situation like what you mentioned I would have no cho8ice but to help and let GOD.

[BassMan2000]

I would help with no hesitation.

There are many things I dislike, but abusing a woman or child really anger me.

In my military career I have stop many forms of abuse. The first time was when I was station in Hawaii.
This kid would just scream and cry. I would call the MP's but nothing would happen.  So one night when it happened I when to the house confronted both the parents and ended up fighting both of them.

The child aunt came to Hawaii to pick him up in the end.

I hand to take anger manager classes with the parents. The counselor asked what would it take to end the dislike and I replied "stop beating you kid".

I do carry a gun and well train to use it.

Going up I seem my Mother, Aunts abused. My sister was abused by her cousin years ago, but never said a word.  She later said she was afraid we would kill him.

And again I hate abuse, to do nothing is not an answer.

[B3Wannabe]

I would help with no hesitation.

There are many things I dislike, but abusing a woman or child really anger me.

In my military career I have stop many forms of abuse. The first time was when I was station in Hawaii.
This kid would just scream and cry. I would call the MP's but nothing would happen.  So one night when it happened I when to the house confronted both the parents and ended up fighting both of them.

The child aunt came to Hawaii to pick him up in the end.

I hand to take anger manager classes with the parents. The counselor asked what would it take to end the dislike and I replied "stop beating you kid".

I do carry a gun and well train to use it.

Going up I seem my Mother, Aunts abused. My sister was abused by her cousin years ago, but never said a word.  She later said she was afraid we would kill him.

And again I hate abuse, to do nothing is not an answer.

I sat and had a conversation with two of my neighbors for a couple hours Tuesday night. These dudes are KUN--TREE! They're so country, they still use the word "Colored". They were both drunk, but they both said that if they ever saw someone trying to break into our house, they would shoot them. They're the type that are always watching. And their front doors are almost always wide open, shotgun sitting right next to the door.

[B_XALTED]

I sat and had a conversation with two of my neighbors for a couple hours Tuesday night. These dudes are KUN--TREE! They're so country, they still use the word "Colored". They were both drunk, but they both said that if they ever saw someone trying to break into our house, they would shoot them. They're the type that are always watching. And their front doors are almost always wide open, shotgun sitting right next to the door.

Where is this at?

[B3Wannabe]

Where is this at?

Laquey, MO - Town of about 900 people.

[B_XALTED]

...just found out that my neighbors husband bonded out Tuesday... The justice system is really crazy. I mean, seriously, the site that I saw in no way would warrant this man being let go on bond.

[Banointed]

Thank God for the person who called and thank God you were there for the child. the women needed help and I know I would have jumped in to help. children witnessing violence with parents is an awful thing. I pray they all get the help needed.

[jcc4t]

I only get involved if the woman is serious about getting out of that relationship because most of the time, these women and men wait until things die down and run right back into his or her arms because they can't see past their limitations. Say for instance you get involved and get seriously hurt where you are wheelchair bound and that couple is back together?  You got hurt for nothing. I'd just call the police and let somebody else who has the strenghth and gutts to stand up to a crazy people, and let them deal with it. While they're doing that, I'll be in a corner on the phone calling 911.