Often times when we go thru, we look for or go to someone we trust to talk to. We pour out our hearts and reveal somethings about ourselves that we probably wouldnt want ANYONE to know… Just keep it between you and God... We express how we feel about certain things in our lives and the majority of the time we are venting… We may contridict a few statements made... or change our minds 25 times... Or even just decided to do nothing...
It is a wonderful thing to get it all out… But what happens when, what we have revealed to someone is exposed?!
What happens when sound advice turns to “What you NEED to do is?”
It is a very hurt feeling for the person whom expressed themselves. Most of the time when we are “Venting” That is pretty much all it is… It is a way of letting things out so that they don’t build up inside and you become a walking time bomb…
I have learned over the years… That you can give advice until you are blue in the face… and it may be the BEST advice for that situation… But you CAINT expect the person to take your advice all the time… because we have to do what is in our best interest…
When advice turns into demands… going from…. “What I think you should do is …” to “You better not do this” and “You better not do that” or “What you NEED to do is…” and my all time favorite “Why didn’t you do what I told you…”
Interesting how we went from peers to parent and kid… There is a very thin line that gets crossed more often than we would admit to… and friendships/bonds we thought were unbreakable, are no more… Then we are left with hurt feelings, trust issues, and broken friendships/relationships…
My advise to anyone giving advice… or even mentoring someone… Sometimes all you need to do is just listen…. Because I will ALMOST ALWAYS do what is in MY best interest…
God Bless
