All of my drums with the acception of the Elvin snare are female. They don't have names. But they are female because I love them the like I'd love a lady. I love them for what they are, good and bad. I accept what they are and make them work for me. And my drums sound and set up wise are constructed how I like my ladies. Just enough up top (10 and 12 inch rack toms) with more down low (14, 16, and eventually an 18 inch floor tom and a 22 inch kick).
I know some smart allec is gonna say "wow juSe... do you sleep with your drums?" No, I do not. However when I was young(er) they did put a strain on a relationship...
The Elvin isnt a girl for an obvious reason... Its already named Elvin.