Yamahaboy, can I ask a question? I honestly know where you're coming from but what does the Pastor have to say about how your cousins playing? Besides you and your family does anybody else feel the same way about him? Just remember that aside from you 2 being musicians, he is your cousin (your blood) & keep his feelings in mind. You're close, dont let the devil come in between you 2 and start no mess. If you're saved and not just a musician occupying a spot in church, you'd pray about it & let God guide you in what to say (that's if He has you say anything at all). Be wise.