Let's really dig deep...
In these kind of situations you have to be truthful and examine yourself.:
Ask...
- What is my motive for playing?
- What have I learned new this week?
-What have I mastered this week?
-Did I really even believe/feel what I was playing?
-Was I in tune/locked in with the melody makers (keys and vocals)... A good drummer always rhythmically supports the melody, it's not about the bass as most believe. it's about the melody.
(Remember, know that the bass, the rhythm guitar and the piano in a lot of cases make up the Rhythm Section. It is not just bass and drums & percussion... All are there to support the featured instrument, the human voice in most cases which the lead guitar, keys, and horns mimic.)
- Was I clear in mind and spirit or did I play with "junk" attached?
-Was I playing for God or man (man's approval) or the desires of man (a paycheck) today?
-Is the band/music dept. on one accord?
-Do we all work equally hard/dilligently in personal study/practice and rehearsal preparation?
Search these answers out and you'll find a lot of things may be out of order with you....
The first thing you should want is the truth not just "courtesy" appreciation... a white lie is not Christian righteousness it is simply a lie. We hear and tell these all to often a day in church.
Now sometimes you may find that you are not appreciated at a certain church... which often means that is not the church you are meant to be at. As well it could mean that you have out grown that position and it's time to move on to your next assignment. Always assess yourself first though... If a man should examine himself he should not be judged.
- SabianKnight