The best way I know how to help you is by starting in the book of Genesis for it give the foundation, then studying the different prayers that were sent up to God. Honestly in this area it takes a process that is gone through or that is going on. This requires a relationship with God that is almost like you are stuck to him like siamese twins. It requires that type of relationship. The best way is for you to pray and ask God this question and let him answer this question; but be patient with God and listen and obey what he has to say.
God Bless